Monday, January 31, 2011

First Impression

Your first impression matters. A lot.
Your first impression is when a stranger meets you, greets you, and finally, judges you. Judge the way you look, act, talk, the way you smile. In fact, I think that a stranger's judgement on your physical appearance is the most accurate one because they are unbiased about your character. Personality, not so much.
Psychology Today's article "First Impression" gives scientific insight on the effects of that first encounter, claiming that "that snapshot captures important elements of the truth." This snippet of the article leads into the analysis of our weaving of first impressions:

The answer lies in part in how the brain takes first-impression Polaroids—creating a composite of all the signals given off by a new experience. Psychologists agree that snap judgments are a holistic phenomenon in which clues (mellifluous voice, Rolex watch, soggy handshake, hunched shoulders) hit us all at once and form an impression larger than their sum. 
So, whether it's an interview or a blind date, just make sure you're giving an impression you won't regret. After all, you don't want to give them the wrong one.

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Why Love?

Romcom-bashers and love-atheists out there...snap out of it!
We can all agree that the purpose of life is to reach happiness. There are people who search for it in success and accomplishment, in currency and material possession. But the core of all happiness, the hidden strings attached to everything we do, is love. We are born from the consummation of love. We eat the foods we love, do the things we love. We make friends because we love them. We pursue careers that we love. We marry the people we love.
Love, quite simply, is emotional fulfillment. And everyone is looking for love.

Sure, maybe that romantic comedy was generic, predictable, but it still had that one special message: love makes the world go round and is simply so compelling. Why did that man do that for her? How did he overcome his own securities and own selfish desires for that woman? We see shocking results come from love, disproving the theories of philosophers like Hobbes who believe that human nature is selfish and evil. Love is the one thing about every one of us that makes us do things we never thought we would, say things we never thought we would, and be someone we never knew we could.
Yes. Love is the tangible proof of the kindness of human nature, the embodiment of good in all of us.